10th March 2008. The date to be remembered till eternity.
My mom is finally divorced (Talak 1) from my dad before the Judge of Honour. A status my mom has been longing ever since my dad went away. Sadly, the divorce words were not expressed by my dad. The Court made the decision based on the fact that my dad had deserted my mom and never pay her maintenance for 4 consecutive months.
Words could not describe how I felt that very day in the Court. I was both happy and sad at the same time. I'm happy coz finally, the case ended after almost half a year gone. I'm happy to see mom with all smiles. I know this will be good for her. But as to why I'm sad, I guess it's pretty obvious. I've lost a father. My family is no longer complete. For once, I agree with you people out there who told me that no matter what, he is still my father. That's why I'm sad. I'm extremely disappointed in him. Usually, it's the child who let down their parents but not for me. What is God trying to show me and mom out of all these?
My two elder sisters were present after the hearing outside the court. They came up to my dad to chat with him. After all, it has been ages since they last saw their dad. It hurts me so much to listen to their conversation. My dad speaks like nothing has happened. I don't understand why, till the very last day, he still keeps his ego high by saying that this divorce took place all because of my mom. He claimed my mom never treat him good. What logic is that? After 20 freaking years, he dares says this? True enough my mom stopped treating him nicely since early 2006, but, that was due to her finding out about my dad's secret marriage! Imagine yourself in my mom's shoe. Who would be jumping for joy at that discovery? He must be insane!!!
My sisters then took him for lunch to help us "investigate" more. They claimed that my dad finally admitted he regretted his acts. He was aware that I am in particular very mad at him. That's the reason why he cannot face me. He have always turned his back on me. He told my sisters that he can't possibly have apologised to me despite being in the wrong. Gee! Wat the heck is wrong with him? This is what I dislike about him. He and his old-fashioned thinking. This is the modern world, for god's sake! Regardless of your position in the family, you jolly well apologise for your own mistake, right? Sigh. Very very disappointed. For this, I am still mad at him and I don't know if I can ever forgive and/or forget. I will just let nature take its course. Let time heals everything. . .
He then said that he never expected my mom to engage a lawyer and fight so hard till the case ended. He said my mom is already rich and living a high class life. Why the need for his money? Gosh! Not to brag but we really don't need his money ok! This is by law and this is his responbility that he neglected. The so called 'compensation' he needs to pay my mom amounted to $20,000+. My mom initially requested $50,000+ but out of goodwill, she agreed to lower down the amount. So now, together with my maintenance fee, my dad needs to pay a total of $540 per month to my mom. He shooked his head all the way, in the court, when the law was passed down by the Judge. Too bad for him. U see, regretting his mistake is one thing but it could not have possibly ended there, right? He needs to be gentleman enough to face the music! This is the only way to reprimand him. It's not like me and mom no longer have any humanitiy in us but what he did was more inhumane isn't it? Sigh. Very very disappointed again.
Regarding custody, obviously I chose my mom over him. That's it. I just want to close the chapter in my life. I want to start a new chapter, if not a new book, with my mom and grandma. Everyone told me to take care of my two treasure and take this incident as a lesson. I pray each day not to be like my dad. I vow to make my mom happy for the rest of her life. God, please make me strong to face the days ahead.
Apart from all these happenings, there's another thing that's bothering my mind right now. My house needs to be sold off. My mom will get 80% of the profit and the rest will be given to my dad. Where am I going to move? The 3 months limit is really killing me and mom. My grandma love this house and wanted my mom to buy back the house after selling it away. Sadly my mom can't afford it. As such, my grandma decided to sell off her house to help my mom pay off the extra amount. That's sweet but then again, this idea was sort of rejected by my aunt. Sigh. After one problem is over, another problem arises. I know, it's not life if there's no problem. But too much is also not good isn't it? I don't know anything now. I can't predict the future. I am so living day by day from today onwards. God knows till when. . .
So that's the whole update on my family's situation now. Thank you for reading through and another million thanks to everyone who have supported me and my mom all these while. I hope we will stay strong all the way. . . Insya'allah, Amin.
Regards,
Niz
